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  • gaystyleJoker [she/her]@hexbear.netMEnglish
    5·
    4 months ago

    hello gang, once again here to ask if anyone wants to sign up to make the mega and also claim my spot at the top of the comment pile

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  • EstraDoll [she/her, he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
    18·
    4 months ago

    TRANSITION MILESTONE ACHIEVED:

    - RANDOM GUY IN PUBLIC STARTS FLIRTING WITH YOU -

    still kind of shook because it was so unexpected but uhh… now i know how the other girls feel when it happens. Blend of euphoria and ewphoria but i’m going with 85% euphoria and 15% ewphoria here

    • sodium_nitride [she/her, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
      12·
      4 months ago

      virtual hug initiated

      You don’t need to worry about your “accomplishments”. They only mean something if they bring you happiness. If not having them gives you sadness, then forget about them.

      Don’t let college become a ghost in your head that you chase after. That’s what I did and it killed parts of me. Now I can brag to employers about how exploitable I am cause I’m in debt and have no friends.

      I know many people who come to college to waste their time and party. They are the ones really wasting their life. You are instead taking care of your life, you just need more effort for it than others.

    • lilypad [it/its, pup/pup's]@hexbear.netEnglish
      12·
      4 months ago

      spoiler

      That tightrope walk is so hard… I hope theres some respite for you soon, even if its just some icecream and cuddling a plushie. Im sorry i have no advice (if i did i would be taking it doggirl-cry) but, well, youre heard and like i know what its like and it sucks. I keep applying for jobs but even if i get hired ill probably lose it to another mental health episode…

      Its tough out there, im glad you at least have here to vent to meow-hug

  • Ceres [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    18·
    4 months ago

    Got casually she/her’d for the first and second time in the last few days, very exciting, also seems like B/C cups overrides being really tall (thank you padded sports bra)

      • AntifaSuperWombat [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
        12·
        4 months ago

        Yes, but this can be very difficult to do when you’ve never experienced love. Like, I’m still struggling with this myself, no matter how many times my girlfriend says she loves me, because I’m not used to this new feeling.

      • EstraDoll [she/her, he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
        13·
        5 months ago

        yeah. i want to flirt with people but literally anything i do feels like i’m going too far. there is no “safe” area, i might as well be sexally harassing someone. this means i basically can’t flirt with anyone because anything is a bridge too far and idk what to do

        • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
          13·
          5 months ago

          I dunno if your city has a gay bar or some trans t4t style event but usually people go to those to be flirted with.

          Do you feel locked up by anxiety and fear of rejection? Or is it a fear that you dont deserve to come on to someone because you think trans people shouldn’t because of some possibly internalized transphobia? If you’re worried about coming across as creepy, the fact that you care how you come across puts you way ahead of creeps

          • EstraDoll [she/her, he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
            11·
            4 months ago

            I fear that anything I say is going to be followed with a “stop talking to me creep” and is too far, unwarranted, and just creepy. So the only time I ever say anything “flirty” it just comes off as 100% friendly and only slightly plausibly flirting

    • Wmill [they/them, fae/faer]@hexbear.netEnglish
      10·
      5 months ago

      why the fuck does every form of flirting feel like sexual harassment

      Big mood, I think a lot of it is just testing boundaries and backing off if you get a no or maybe. I think all my crushes went nowhere mostly because I kept people at arms length by being polite vs warm. A good way to get started is probably bullshitting with friends not necessarily flirting but more ripping on each other like good friends do, if you go too far with a friend you apologize and talk through it.

  • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    17·
    4 months ago
    mental health, some of its harsh from a caregiver

    Before me and my ex broke up, for 3 years they had some kind of constellation of depression, fatigue, pain, a lot of stuff. I was happy to step in cause I thought love and patience was enough.

    I do remember towards the end, starting to feel incredibly depressed and resentful that I didnt also have a Terminal in our relationship. I still had to go to school and work and change the cats litter on both of our days and cook and clean. But I didnt, I had my ex.

    The frustrating part was watching them NOT take steps towards anything. Not trying to get a job, not trying to get welfare, not attending therapy, not going to health appointments - even when I set them up, unless I drove there and from the sounds of it later they never talked much at any of them so I started getting them to write down what was happening day to day (feeling itchy for the 3rd day in a row, emesis x2 today, slept 14 hours, needed hot bath for nausea, etc). I ran into their family at work recently and by the sounds of it, theyre much better.

    Part of me is happy theyre FINALLY better and working and taking care of themslef. The other is bitter and mad, why wasn’t our relationship good enough to make that effort? I had been a shitty boyfriend sometimes and a much less shitty girlfriend but I thought I was worth taking the effort to, like, eat meals and go to therapy and work at a job. Im still paying consumer debt I took out to support us…

  • iridaniotter [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    17·
    5 months ago

    Sometimes I see people joke about “genetically encoded cup size” but this is completely ignoring reaction norm. Your breasts are not genetically fated! They are historically contingent. It’s dialectical you see…

    • Wmill [they/them, fae/faer]@hexbear.netEnglish
      11·
      5 months ago

      My mom always attributed her large bust size to her in mexico constantly grinding by hand maize when she was growing up, eating all those tamales and such probably had to do with it too

    • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      10·
      5 months ago

      Everyone told me to expect about a cup size less than what the cis women in your family have, and for me I was right on target. They’ve always whined about their big breasts and I have perfectly sized medium-large boobs. The perfect balance 😎