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  • EstraDoll [she/her, he/him]@hexbear.net
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    19 days ago

    yeah. i want to flirt with people but literally anything i do feels like i’m going too far. there is no “safe” area, i might as well be sexally harassing someone. this means i basically can’t flirt with anyone because anything is a bridge too far and idk what to do

    • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.net
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      19 days ago

      I dunno if your city has a gay bar or some trans t4t style event but usually people go to those to be flirted with.

      Do you feel locked up by anxiety and fear of rejection? Or is it a fear that you dont deserve to come on to someone because you think trans people shouldn’t because of some possibly internalized transphobia? If you’re worried about coming across as creepy, the fact that you care how you come across puts you way ahead of creeps

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        18 days ago

        I fear that anything I say is going to be followed with a “stop talking to me creep” and is too far, unwarranted, and just creepy. So the only time I ever say anything “flirty” it just comes off as 100% friendly and only slightly plausibly flirting