it’s hot. also i’m growing cacti from seed which is new to me and i’m excited, a few of them are sprouting now. how are you?

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  • rando895 [she/her]@lemmygrad.ml
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    21 days ago
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    Thanks for the message. Coming out to my parents for sure, though my mom told my partner that she can tell theres some kind of barrier between us. Maybe I should tell her I’m bi first… Lol.

    I’m definitely struggling with knowing what I want/like (in general really) and its no doubt from years of hiding. I have just came out to the first person I wanted to (my partner basically figured it out so I didn’t have to tell them lol) and the rest of the day I was so exhausted from the anxiety and sudden ending of the source of it, I could hardly keep my eyes open. I’m feeling less anxious now which is nice, but I think I’ll still be worried about treatment by the public.

    Ohh, and I’m a national level athlete in a very gendered sport. So thats weighing on me pretty heavily too.

    • WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]@reddthat.com
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      21 days ago
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      Coming out to my parents for sure

      Can certainly be stressful regardless of how you expect it to go. Best of luck with that.

      my partner basically figured it out so I didn’t have to tell them lol

      Always my favorite way to come out to others is not having to.

      Ohh, and I’m a national level athlete in a very gendered sport. So thats weighing on me pretty heavily too.

      That sounds really rough. Guess you can’t just hide it there. Have you looked in how switching would go?

      • rando895 [she/her]@lemmygrad.ml
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        21 days ago
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        So I can hide it for awhile, probably until I have noticable boobs lol. But, its hard to know how hrt will affect my performance. And then there’s the issue with if I’m still really competitive, what does that say for trans women in sport? I can solve the coming out problem, but the sport problem is much harder.

        • WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]@reddthat.com
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          21 days ago
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          probably until I have noticable boobs lol.

          People are sometimes incredibly unaware of things. I think for most people, they have to be un-ignorable for some to notice. Granted, if you aren’t overweight and have thin and tight uniforms, that might be a lot earlier.

          But, its hard to know how hrt will affect my performance.

          That was more more concern. A lot of people talk about pretty quickly noticing difference in their physical abilities. Personally, I’ve been surprised by the lack of drop-off. But I almost never strength train and I think some sports have 2+ year requirements of taking HRT (which I don’t meet that requirement).

          And then there’s the issue with if I’m still really competitive, what does that say for trans women in sport?

          The fact that its so politicized sucks. Like, even if somehow you disproved all kinds of research suggesting otherwise, I think learning more would be a cool outcome in a vacuum.