• mrfugu [he/him, any]@hexbear.net
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    16 days ago

    More and more I’m realizing that many subs truly feel as though they deserve domination. I just like physical pain and going along with the bit. We are not the same.

    • Johnny_Arson [they/them]@hexbear.net
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      16 days ago

      My old girlfriend scratched the hell out of my chest (not even on purpose) and I think it awakened something in me.

      And she was the sub in that relationship.

      O to be young again.

      • mrfugu [he/him, any]@hexbear.net
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        16 days ago

        Haha I’m more of a blunt trauma kinda person. I dated a girl that loved to dig her nails into my back. Was not a fan of he sensation but seeing the damage afterword was pretty cool.

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          16 days ago

          I cherished those little scars for a while ngl. Too bad I blew that relationship. Kinda swore off the whole idea of being with someone afterward out of guilt. Tried dating apps a couple times afterward but that shit sucks.

    • 389aaa [it/its]@hexbear.net
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      15 days ago

      I’d say to some degree this is something of the distinction between someone who is primarily a masochist and someone who is primarily a submissive.

      Speaking from personal experience (me), having a strong fetishized draw to the actual act of submission and not having a masochistic bone in my body, it really is a very different thing, yea, and often does connect to non-sexual personality traits and values and such.