Sometimes I wonder how much this is a symptom of AuDHD specifically. ADHD people cannot hold “The Thought” but often just go with the flow anyway and it’s not as important. ASD peeps can hold “The thought” and feel the pressure to express it. AuDHD people simultaneously cannot hold it and feel the pressure to express it.

Stop listening to respond and this won’t happen. Actively listen and you’ll always have something to add, at the end, when it’s you’re turn to speak.

Edit: Look y’all, I’ve been dealing with my ADHD unmedicated for over 20 years and I have to say sometimes you need to listen to the neurotypicals. Just because conversation skills like “active listening” don’t come natural to you doesn’t mean you should just discount the advice as neurotypical nonsense. Use those beautiful powers of observation and pattern reconition intentionally: listen, parse, connect back to context, respond. Believe it or not, you don’t need to have a response ready immediately, and most folks appreciate a few seconds of silence as it shows them you care enough to respond genuinely rather than just speaking.

*while also trying to listen to the others

Sometimes I’ll have a joke related to the topic and am waiting to deliver it. Then the topic changes and it doesn’t work anymore. Only I know how good the joke was, and I carry that to my grave