• Awoo [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    1 month ago

    Chinese dude does a very bad job of explaining that he’s not a nazi but has a kink for nazi shit in the bedroom. Probably a sub processing various racial traumas with kink, one of those being getting dommed by nazis in the bedroom and having their race insulted. It’s a humiliation and masochism kink at its core.

    If they actually explained the part that was being misunderstood this whole interaction could have gone differently. The white person is not that kinky and misunderstood having never encountered any of these kinks before. Even someone with some bdsm knowledge could have worked out that it was a subdom “dominate me nazi daddy” thing.

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        1 month ago

        Yeah this race stuff is absolutely not my thing but like I do get the submissive stuff so I can at least understand the core part of it. A lot of submissive trans people are into being called gender slurs and having that used against them for humiliation, that’s a similar thing, they’re turning their biggest weakness into kink. I can understand that the Chinese dude is just latching onto his own softest spot.

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      It’s easy to look down when I was blessed with healthy ways to process trauma (crying until given affection)