“I can say that he has been very cooperative,” Cox continued, possibly misgendering the roommate. “This partner has been incredibly cooperative, had no idea that this was happening and is working with investigators right now.”
This has to be intentional. Shitting in one hand calling it “civility” then in the other lobbing a grenade of transphobia. Love it.
This is all with the assumption that the other party wasn’t aware of what’s happening. Yes, if you’re going to be a savior of marginalized people, don’t put those people in the situation where they’re having to lie to the cops unless they’re in on it and okay with doing so.
You don’t have to lie. Just become temporarily very forgetful.
That is still lying and still carries all of the same psychological difficulties in terms of actually pulling it off.
Have you ever had to lie by omission to any sort of authority figure? Particularly likely already being traumatized by interactions with authority figures, like a LOT of trans people are?
If you don’t have difficulties with that, you genuinely have nerves of steel and that’s extremely impressive, but even if you’re convinced ‘temporarily becoming very forgetful’ is something most trans people are capable of successfully doing, this is a situation that is 1000x worse than anything anyone would reasonably expect to deal with it.
It’s not just cops, it’s cops investigating a fucking political assassination and looking for anything they can to blame this on you specifically and people like you, it is the number 1 news item in the entire country! The stakes and psychological stress are so much fucking higher - I definitely couldn’t keep my shit together while being ‘very forgetful’ with all this stress on me, honestly. Especially not with cops poking and proding for any cracks in that front.
Emotional distress is beneficial to the claim of forgetting. The more emotional stress and poking that is attempted, the more forgetful you become due to being so overwhelmed by the situation. The more they lay it on the easier it actually becomes to hide not knowing something or forgetting or drawing blank or whatever under the overwhelming nature of the scenario and emotional distress of the situation.
The more emotionally distressed you become the more your “I’m not sure” “I don’t remember” and “I don’t know” uncertainties become relateable to others. It’s much harder to pass off drawing a blank or forgetting or missing details in calm and less stressful scenarios because you have less excuse for brainfarts.
Ride the stress of the situation to your benefit. It is your ally in keeping up appearances.
Yes