“overly sexualizes us” and yet you don’t identify as transsexual. This is a personal problem, where you personally don’t feel represented by a word, and yet you feel confident telling other people that the language they do feel comfortable with and use to self-describe is harmful and damaging to you. This is the height of arrogance.

Sure, say that you don’t want to be called transsexual. That’s fair. But that doesn’t make it your place to tell transsexual people, who you are not one of, that they can’t use it or it’s harmful of them to do so. And it’s absolutely gross to say that someone’s self-identification not matching your own choice is empowering oppressive ideologies, thereby oppressing transsexual people by refusing them the safety and right to self-identify in favour of the current hegemonic term transgender.

Edit: I also want to say that in your very comment you conflate transgender, transsexual, and trans as all being interchangeable and synonymous, but that is only true to you. To many people (and by the words’ very histories) these are not the same thing. To say transsexuals are harming all trans people and that they have to just use the hegemonic transgender or trans is to erase that transsexual is its own identity with its own history and its own communities of relationality.