• Redcuban1959 [any]@hexbear.net
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    8 months ago

    Correct if I am wrong, but Assexual people do not like sex but enjoy deep relationships (romance) with other people, right?

    As a gay man can someone tell me why straight people not wanting to get laid has ANYTHING TO DO WITH ME?! I’m so grateful to have organisations like LGB Alliance in 2025 to push back against this nonsense, it’s glorious to see them grow bigger & louder each year…

    Are these people braindead? You can be homosexual and assexual at the same time, do this people think that sex = love? Do they think you need to love someone to have sex with them?

    • axont [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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      8 months ago

      Asexual people can enjoy sex. It depends on the person. Demisexual people only feel sexual attraction if it’s connected to emotional attachment. Gray asexuals might have sexual attraction some of the time, but not others.

      Purely asexual people who have no sexual attraction may still enjoy sex with a partner on the basis of romantic attachment or the intimacy involved.

      There are also uh…a type of person in the aspec (asexual spectrum) known as fictosexuals, who are only sexually attracted to fictional characters or imaginary circumstances. They’re kinda a controversial topic though.

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      8 months ago

      I doubt any actual gay people support the LGB Alliance, a shitty fake organization that only exists for transphobic purposes. Extremely strong “as a black man” energy from that post.

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          8 months ago

          straight white gays, the ones that think pride is too “flamboyant” and refer to the guy they live with in a single bedroom condo as their “roommate” and let straights say slurs around them to prove they’re one of the good ones.

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        8 months ago

        Honestly, to be real with you, some lesbian, gay, and bisexual people are just very shitty, as no particular identity makes someone unable to be shitty. LGBT people are human, and humans, be they LGBT or not, can have awful, reactionary takes on things. I’ve dealt with a lot of discrimination from other LGBT people, not just on the basis of being the “wrong type of queer,” but on the basis of race and other things too.

        I don’t doubt that many of the “LGB Alliance” people are just straight LARPers, but to say “no actual gay people support the LGB Alliance” is just denying and distorting how awful, exclusionary, and bigoted the queer community can be sometimes.

    • CthulhusIntern [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      Ace is a spectrum. They can hate sex, be indifferent to sex, can be willing to have sex for a partner they know needs it, sometimes even find it enjoyable but not like the be-all-end-all of pleasure like many allos do. Sometimes, they see sex like a hug, nice to have, but not absolutely amazing. And the aromantic spectrum is also a separate thing.

  • UmbraVivi [he/him, she/her]@hexbear.net
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    Who the hell has beef with ace people

    I don’t think I’ve even heard Christian fundamentalists complain about them. Mostly because it’s really hard to sell them as a threat or deviants in any way, but still. Very weird battle to pick.

    Edit: Ok for the record I don’t assume that Christian fundamentalists and other right-wingers are tolerant of ace people, it’s more so that I’ve never seen any public figures specifically target them.

    • Le_Wokisme [they/them, undecided]@hexbear.net
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      ace folks get the same abuse from heteropatriarchal christianity that everybody else does when they don’t conform to social and sexuality norms. idk how often the tirade is about ace people specifically because that would require the preacher and the congregation to know what that is, but if you’re not not making white babies for jesus they hate you.

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    8 months ago

    I can’t think of a living person who managed to burn more good will than her

    I knew some queer folks who absolutely cherished the sort of “found family” aspect of Harry Potter leaving his asshole biological family who hated him for some immutable characteristic of his for others who celebrated those exact characteristics. Gee I can’t imagine why.

    It will forever blow my mind that she, almost entirely by her own accord, torched her legacy. And she’s still at it. She’s the case study of how bigotry rots your brain.

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      I know it’s probably just because it’s kid’s media, but it’s interesting that she managed to build up so much goodwill with a story that has so many deeply unpleasant aspects in the first place. I mean, the woman wrote a universe where fighting slavery is bad because the enslaved just love being slaves so much. She said lycanthropy was a metaphor for AIDS… When in her story, lycanthropes prey on children. She named her one black student, and I apologise for repeating this because it’s so fucking gross but this is true, “Kingsley shacklebolt”. She named the one black student shacklebolt. In a story with a species of fantasy slaves who actually you shouldn’t free because they love being slaves. She made a story where drapetomania is real, then decided her one named black character should be called shacklebolt.

      After all that, the fatphobia, misogyny, ableism and, yes, transphobia (because she even managed to sneak transphobia into harry potter) seems almost quaint.

      Why did anyone ever let children read this absolute rubbish.

      • axont [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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        8 months ago

        I was a Harry Potter lore nerd as a kid (before I found Touhou) so I just wanna do a minor correction that the one black student’s name is actually Dean Thomas. Kingsley Shacklebolt is an adult and an auror (wizard FBI). Different characters

        She did however name the one Asian student “Cho Chang.”

        Also JK Rowling is a massive Terf and I despise her