My mom told me that she never noticed my voice change, even though I tried to make it as obvious as possible for her. Cis people’s perception is just completely different than ours.
I think most people’s view of gender and social expectations of its performance are just very unexamined, because they never have cause to examine it and when they are presented a cause such as trans or gender non-conforming people their reaction is confrontational and defensive about their basic assumptions which they never challenge.
I actually think a lot of people who are not themselves trans or gender non-conforming but accepting of those tend to also be accepting broadly but not understanding of these performances or nuances that are constantly reaffirmed through social interactions and can require deconstruction to properly perceive and present.
I am myself cis-male but despite occasionally being confused for a girl in my teen and young adult years it took me until my mid 20s and interacting with trans people to see.
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My mom told me that she never noticed my voice change, even though I tried to make it as obvious as possible for her. Cis people’s perception is just completely different than ours.
I think most people’s view of gender and social expectations of its performance are just very unexamined, because they never have cause to examine it and when they are presented a cause such as trans or gender non-conforming people their reaction is confrontational and defensive about their basic assumptions which they never challenge.
I actually think a lot of people who are not themselves trans or gender non-conforming but accepting of those tend to also be accepting broadly but not understanding of these performances or nuances that are constantly reaffirmed through social interactions and can require deconstruction to properly perceive and present.
I am myself cis-male but despite occasionally being confused for a girl in my teen and young adult years it took me until my mid 20s and interacting with trans people to see.